Firmness Guide

Here at Phreak we offer a variety of different toy models in different firmnesses (or hardnesses) to accommodate a wide variety of tastes and preferences. Trying to decide what firmness is best can be a little overwhelming, so here is a rundown with general information about the firmness options we have!


We highly suggest that first-time customers order one of our packs of Firmness Pucks so you can better understand how our material feels.


A good way to get the most out of your Firmness Pucks is to squeeze a sample in your hands – fold it over on itself several times to make it thick, twist it, pull at it, check out the texture of the logo and how that feels in different firmnesses. It will help you decide what you like the feel of the most regarding how it squishes and moves.


Our products react poorly to silicone lubricants and “cheaper” materials used in other toys, so you can use our sample discs to check lube and material compatibility. (If you would like more information on caring for your toy, check out our Creature Care page)


We offer Soft, Medium, Firm and many combinations of these as firmness options on our dildos.

  • Soft (0040 – 0050 on the “00” shore hardness scale) is the most yielding firmness we have available for dildos. It compresses and bends very easily. Some models such as Dutch and the larger Brutus toys will have difficulty remaining upright on their own in this solid firmness.
  • Medium (A04 – A06 on the “A” shore hardness scale) is the middle ground of our firmness options. It’s somewhat more difficult to compress than Soft but does not bend as much on its own. Some models will still have difficulty standing on their own (due to top heaviness) but most are more stable than in Soft firmness.
  • Firm (A13 – A17 on the “A” shore hardness scale) is the hardest firmness that we have available. It is difficult to compress; it springs back to its original shape very quickly when bent and released. In general, it is very unyielding.

We have two other options called split firmness. This means that the shaft of the toy is cast in one single uniform firmness, but the base is cast in a different single uniform firmness. Availability of split firmness varies depending on the model of toy purchased – you can check a toy’s product page to see if it supports this option. We have two types of split firmness:

  • Split Firm – the shaft of the toy is made in Medium, with the base in Firm
  • Split Wide – the shaft of the toy is made in Soft, with the base in Firm

A good rule of thumb for selecting firmness is to look at proportions of toys if you are interested in them standing on their own. Models that have a very slender shaft or a large amount of space behind the knot usually will not stand on their own regardless of firmness.

Another factor to keep in mind is that the larger the size of a toy you order, the harder it will feel due to the volume of the toy! A small thin toy will always feel softer than its larger counterpart even if they are both the same firmness. The reverse is also true: the smaller the size of a toy, the softer it will feel.

One last tip is that the varying thickness on some toy models can make the firmness seem irregular. When you have less silicone in an area, it will always feel softer than an area that is very thick or dense.

At the end of the day, what firmness will work best for you is very much a personal decision. Customer Service can’t advise as to which firmness is best, but you can always contact us if you have other general questions about our firmness options!